Option 3 : Adoption

Again, another thing to think about, if you can't support this child yourself, and you can't go through an abortion. Adoption.

Again on the National Abortion Federation website, I found out something I didn't know. There are three types of abortions. Closed, Semi-opened, and Opened.

This page goes on to tell what each form of adoption includes.

It also gives you a list of things to think about when considering adoption such as ...

• Who is supporting you in this choice and who is opposing your plans? How does their opinion affect you?
• What are your future goals and how would continuing your pregnancy and placing the child for adoption impact these goals?
• What is your relationship with the birth father? What has been his reaction to your plans?
• Would the adoption be harder or easier for you if you could be in contact with the child and her adoptive parents?
• Do you want the adoptive parents to be a part of your pregnancy experience?
• Are you prepared to go through nine months of pregnancy?
• What kind of family would you like to adopt your child? Are you comfortable that you can find such a family?
• If your child approaches you in 18 years and wants to know why you placed her for adoption, what will you say? How will you feel?

Option 2 : Parenthood

Parenthood is the most obvious option in being pregnant. But for some, it's not an option at all. Like I said in the last post, You have to think about not only what is best for you, but for the baby too. If you can't better you life, and give the baby the happy, healthy home it deserves, will parenting be the best option for you? And I'm not trying to sound like a bitch saying "you aren't capable of raising this child you created" I just want people to be more educated and live their life to the fullest, while giving their child the life it deserves as well.

Again with the National Abortion Federation, the three options Abortion : Parenthood : Adoption

Here is the link for parenthood.

http://www.prochoice.org/pregnant/options/parenthood.html

This page tells you about what you need to do to help your baby be healthy. It says the obvious, how you should refrain from using drugs, drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes. You need to modify your diet, eat healthy, get enough sleep and exercise.

Then it goes on to telling you that you need to make appointments. You need to figure out if you are going to deliver the baby at a hospital, at home, at a birthing center.

It also gives you a list of things to consider when you decide to enter parenthood : lifestyle changes, medical support, financial support, emotional support.

Option 1 : Abortion

What you have to decide when you find out that you are pregnant is "is parenthood right for me right now?" "can i give this child the life it deserves?" "what are my other options?" "is this the best choice for me and the baby?"

I googled "pregnancy options" I got about 436,000 results.

From this I found the National Abortion Federation website. The site gave me three options.

Abortion : Parenthood : Adoption

Each are clickable links and give you information about whichever option you chose.

This is the abortion link

http://www.prochoice.org/pregnant/options/abortion.html

It tells you about the abortion process, and what to expect from it depending on how far along you are in your pregnancy. How long it takes, what it could feel like. It also gives you information on the aftercare of an abortion.

Having "the talk"

Like I've said before I didn't have a "birds and bees" talk with my parents. And honestly I wish I had talked to my mom about it before she found out. It makes me wonder, Did my mom think I was all innocent and would never do it? Or did she just not want to admit it to herself? I was 16 when my mom found out that I was sexually active. I had never talked to her. I mean I heard her tell my older sister that she was disappointed in her for having sex before she was married, so I didn't want to tell her. But then I was thinking about it. You didn't talk to us. How are we supposed to know. So I started researching, when are you supposed to talk to your kids about sex? Is it really that hard to talk about it. I found this link, with 10 tips on talking to you kids about sex. I thought it was interesting.

http://www.talkingwithkids.org/first.html

Is Abstinence based the best way?

I honestly don't think Abstinence based sex ed is really helpful. It's telling people that they shouldn't have sex until you're married. But teenagers are curious. They are going to be in pressured situations, and they are going to want to try out their feelings. I guess abstinence based sex ed is better than no sex ed at all, but I don't understand why adults are teaching us that we should wait instead of facing the fact that a lot of teenagers are sexually active.

This link states that 3 in 10 teenagers ages 13-16 are sexually active.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6839072

So if 3 in 10, 13-16 year olds are sexually active, why not just teach them how to be safe about it?

Sex Ed

I have heard a lot lately about debates on sex ed. So I started thinking back to high school. I had a health class, but it was mostly about health, and std's. Nothing really about safe sex. I never really got the "birds and bees" talk. So it makes me wonder, if I had the "birds and the bees" talk, or a sex ed class, would I have made different decisions when it came to that? Which brings me to my main topic. If there was effective Sex Ed out there, would so many people be getting pregnant? And at what age is sex ed appropriate? Also what kind of sex ed? Safe Sex? or Abstenance?

I came across this link, and found it interesting.

http://www.avert.org/sexedu.htm